Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy was developed in the 1960’s and has been proven to be a very effective way to help you understand what you are feeling and change negative patterns of thinking that lead to unhelpful behaviour through a solution-based approach.
What is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy?
CBT helps you to develop skills and tools to recognise and challenge crooked thinking that can lead to unwanted negative patterns of behaviour.
How does it work?
Positive or negative emotions can occur as a result of our ‘inner chatter’ – simply if the inner chatter in your head is negative it makes you feel a negative emotion and unwanted behaviour will follow.
CBT helps you to change the crooked thinking and inner chatter into something more positive and rational, then naturally more positive feelings and behaviour will follow. To do this, CBT explores your core beliefs about life that may stem from childhood or later experiences. For example, if as a child you were always being criticised or told that you can’t do something, you may grow up believing that you are ‘not good enough’ ant this can cause you to have low self-esteem. This can affect your whole life – how you perform at work, how you feel in relationships and how you think others may be judging you.
CBT can help you start making sense of your feelings. CBT can help you learn how to control your behaviour. It can help you develop coping mechanisms. It can also help you understand the consequences of your actions.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy can help with many issues. You may be feeling depressed or anxious and not really be aware of what is causing these feelings. Below are some examples of problems that are frequently addressed in therapy:
- Passive behaviour. A debilitating desire to gain people’s approval. Putting yourself out to please others so that you get the approval that you are desperately need. This can be manifested in many types of self-less behaviour. An example would be saying ‘yes’ when you really mean ‘no’.
- Shyness, social anxiety. Feeling anxious or self-conscious during social situations; finding it hard to participate in the things you want to because of your shyness; avoid speaking to people; worrying that people think badly of you in social setting; worrying that you have nothing interesting to contribute to conversations; worrying that you are the centre of attention and everyone can see how anxious you are.
- Aggressive behaviour. Physical violence, such as biting, hitting, and kicking. Verbal hostility, like sending threatening messages through emails, phone calls, or social media, or making threats against someone’s life, shouting, and swearing. Nonverbal intimidation, such as making threatening gestures, sending unwanted gifts, and sexual harassment. Destruction of property, like breaking someone’s computer, destroying someone’s mobile phone, or other forms of vandalism.
- Body image problems. How we feel about our appearance whether we are underweight or overweight. Avoiding social activities and comparing yourself to others.
This is just a sample of the things you may have recognised in yourself that we can work on to help change how you feel, think and behave.